• The Catholic View of Sexuality

    The Catechism of the Catholic Church has clear instructions about human sexuality. It is very pro marriage, and teaches that sexual union is for pleasure, for procreation, and to emotionally and spiritually unite husband and wife.

    Catechism of the Catholic Church on Sex

    2360 Sexuality is ordered to the conjugal love of man and woman. In marriage the physical intimacy of the spouses becomes a sign and pledge of spiritual communion. Marriage bonds between baptized persons are sanctified by the sacrament.

    No Condoms.

    2361 "Sexuality, by means of which man and woman give themselves to one another through the acts which are proper and exclusive to spouses, is not something simply biological, but concerns the innermost being of the human person as such. It is realized in a truly human way only if it is an integral part of the love by which a man and woman commit themselves totally to one another until death."

    2362 "The acts in marriage by which the intimate and chaste union of the spouses takes place are noble and honorable; the truly human performance of these acts fosters the self-giving they signify and enriches the spouses in joy and gratitude." Sexuality is a source of joy and pleasure:

    The Creator himself . . . established that in the [generative] function, spouses should experience pleasure and enjoyment of body and spirit. Therefore, the spouses do nothing evil in seeking this pleasure and enjoyment. They accept what the Creator has intended for them. At the same time, spouses should know how to keep themselves within the limits of just moderation.

    2363 The spouses' union achieves the twofold end of marriage: the good of the spouses themselves and the transmission of life. These two meanings or values of marriage cannot be separated without altering the couple's spiritual life and compromising the goods of marriage and the future of the family. The conjugal love of man and woman thus stands under the twofold obligation of fidelity and fecundity.

    Ejaculation During Intercourse Only

    One priest summed up the Catholic view of permissible sexual play within marriage by saying “You are free to do whatever you want, only bring it to a conclusion with the man ejaculating in his wife’s vagina.” That is rather simplistic, and void of theological nuances, but it does describe the biological basics.

    The belief is that ejaculation during intercourse only best preserves and honors what Catholics call the Unitive and Procreative Dimensions of Sexual Intercourse. The Bible says God saw "it was not good for the man to be alone," and married couple are to "Be fruitful and multiply". When a man experiences the powerful pleasure of orgasm only while physically united with his wife, it serves to bind the two together in a way unlike any other.

    This means almost anything and everything is permissible in foreplay. Kissing, stroking, fondling, oral stimulation, sexual play toys, mutual masturbation up to the point of ejaculation, anything and everything as long as the man climaxes while physically joined in coitus with his wife. What is not possible is masturbation, hand job to completion, oral sex to climax for the husband, and the use of condoms and other non-natural contraceptives. Natural Family Planning is the approved method of spacing the birth of children.

    As for the use of birth control, it is not known how many of todays 1.2 billion Catholics do or do not obey the Church's teaching. For sure, it is far from one hundred percent.

    While I do not prescribe to these limitations, I admire those who do, and I appreciate their reasons. I most value their strong desire to be ethical in their sexual pleasures and to please God in their love life. These are very good and honorable.


    Marriage is for Life.


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