• Keys to Maintaining Purity

    Proverbs 9:10.
Fear of the Lord.

    While we are not to live in a constant state of dread and timidity, a healthy fear of the Lord - a reverence for the things of God - is a very good thing.

    The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom,
    and the knowledge of the Holy One is insight. Proverbs 9:10 ESV

    How, with the fear of the Lord guiding us, do we maintain our sexual purity? What are the guiding principles?

    Intimacy Interrupted

    We do not want to do anything
    anywhere at any time that
    would interfere with
    our relationship with God.

    First, we do not want to do anything anywhere at any time that would interfere with our relationship with God. If we live our life out of a place of intimacy with the Almighty, the moment we sense that our enjoyment of continual contact is interrupted, that we have said or done something that grieves the Presence of God within, we will stop what we are doing, repent, and reverse our course. Nothing – no amount of sexual enjoyment or pleasure – is worth interrupting our intimacy with the Lord Jesus Christ; nothing at all.

    Some have discovered that they can continue in ministry for a long time, being effective and blessing many, while living in a place of impaired fellowship with God. Don’t. It is simply not worth it.

    Illegitimate Indulgences

    Second, we do not want to enjoy sexual pleasures that are beyond the bounds of purity. We need to recognize that even though they love each other some activities between an unmarried man and woman are wrong. Many feel that as long as they stop short of actual intercourse, all is well. But bringing each other to orgasm by other means is merely skirting the laws of God and giving each other what is only legitimate within the bond of holy matrimony. While mutual manual and oral stimulation may be better than intercourse, they are still wrong for unmarried couples.

    Defraud Not

I Timothy 5.1-2.

    The Word of God is clear. Men are to treat the older women as mothers; the younger as sisters, “in all purity”. 1 Timothy 5:1-2 ESV

    If you are married, or single and in a romantic relationship, do not defraud one another. 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8 ESV

    Simply put, do not stir up in another any desire you cannot legitimately fulfill. Leave the hot and heavy intimacies for the marriage bed. Turn down the sexual heat and turn up the friendship factor. Ultimately you will be glad you did. Not only will you have less to regret, you will soon discover that a strong friendship is the true basis of marriage, as well as the foundation of a better marital sex life.

    For the married being faithful to your vows means more than not having sex with anyone else. It also means regularly having sex with each other. To fail to do so “except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer” is to defraud our spouse. 1 Corinthians 7:5 ESV Regular sexual intimacy is the will of God, both to provide each other with the gift of sexual pleasure, and also to reduce temptation.

    Whether married or single, simple love for each other and obedience to the Word of God will keep us out of compromising situations and save us from the serious consequences of sexual sin.


    Purity Means Choosing Well.


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