• Almost Never Say No

    A man who continually
    romances his wife is the
    husband of a very happy woman.

    A man who continually romances his wife is the husband of a very happy woman. A woman who never says “no” is the wife of a very happy man. Both are vitally important; romance, and sexual frequency.

    The Bible tells a man to love his wife, as Christ loved the church. Ephesians 5:25 It also says that a married couple are to not withhold sex from each other for any reason other than to give themselves to prayer and fasting, and then only with consent. Almost Never Say No. That means in a godly marriage there is a whole lot of sex going on.

    A woman who almost never
    says “no” is the wife
    of a very happy man.

    The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 ESV

    Frequent marital intimacy is God’s idea and the divine ideal. This is how it is meant to be. That means it is important enough to make it a priority. Plan for it, arrange your schedule to allow time and energy for it, look forward to it, and see it as a significant and essential part of your day.

    Many Excuses

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    One Christian counsellor said, “I have heard many excuses for a lack of frequency in marital lovemaking; a busy schedule, the demands of child raising, lack of sleep, exhaustion, headache, but never to give themselves to more prayer and fasting!” Telling words indeed.

    How often would a man enjoy having sex? Very often! Most of us have a renewal cycle of from 24 to 48 hours. This means we would love to have sex at least 4 out of 7 days a week, if not more.

    It is interesting to note that this instruction for sexual frequency in marriage was not written by a man looking for a way to get more sex from his wife. This was a direct word from God, written by a celibate man who would never experience the full benefit of what he was writing about.

    Make Love Frequently

    “Seriously, who in the world thinks this degree of sexual frequency is a good idea?”

    Clearly God does.

    No Sex in a While.

    Obviously most men do.

    And so do those wives who understand the physical, emotional, and spiritual dynamics of sex. Women who have godly priorities for their marriage. Women who truly love their husbands. Women who truly love God. Women who understand just how important God has made sex in the life of a man, and the opportunity that importance gives a woman to bless her husband. And women who know by experience that if they make the effort they are quite often blessed by unexpected pleasure and joy themselves!

    But It Is My Body!

    “But it is my body!”

    No, according to the Word of God it is not.

    Caroline Mahoney in "Sex, Romance, and the Glory of God" wrote, “As husband and wife, we belong entirely and exclusively to each other – my body is his possession, and his body is mine. We are to give ourselves without qualification and not withhold the pleasure of sex.”

    Amen, Sister!

    Hey, would the Word of God require something of us that was not ultimately beneficial for our marriage, our spouse, and us? God’s way is always best. And God’s way is frequent lovemaking in marriage.

    It didn’t say every session had to be a “Full Meal Deal”. Even a brief encounter ending in orgasm will, for a man for sure, be a “Happy Meal.”


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    1Corinthians7.4.
For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. 
Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.

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