• Oral Sex ~ Objections and the Answer

    There are many reasons some Christians give why they object to oral stimulation and oral sex. By oral stimulation I mean using the tongue and mouth on our spouse’s genitals as part of foreplay. By oral sex I mean doing the same thing, but to orgasm.

    • The genitals are meant for sex, the mouth for eating.
    • Oral-genital contact is unnatural, and dirty.
    • It is used by unmarried couples to sidestep the righteous demands of a holy God.
    • Oral sex is a homosexual activity.
    • Some people become “demonized” through oral sex.
    • We only want oral stimulation and oral sex because of what we have seen in pornography.
    • Some are obsessed with a strong desire for oral sex, to the exclusion of regular lovemaking.

    The Answer

    On casual examination there may be some logic to some of these objections, but they all run into the same problem. They are all false. They are false because in the Song of Solomon the Bible gives clear examples of oral-genital contact. As we saw in our study of the Song of Solomon, she gave him fellatio, he gave her cunnilingus.

    Bible.

    As an apple tree among the trees of the forest,
    so is my beloved among the young men.
    With great delight I sat in his shadow,
    and his fruit was sweet to my taste.
    Song of Solomon 2:3 ESV

    My beloved is mine, and I am his;
    he grazes among the lilies.
    Song of Solomon 2:16 ESV

    Oral sex is a natural and normal part of their spousal lovemaking. It being included and beautifully described in the Word of God should silence the critics immediately. Should they choose to deny themselves this pleasure, they have no justification for imposing restrictions on others. Not only is oral sex justified but it is also sanctified by being included in Holy Writ.

    Answers to Objections

    But let’s look at and answer each of these objections.

    • The genitals are meant for sex, the mouth for eating. I think each of our parts is multi-functional. We use our mouth to speak, to eat, to make music and to kiss. Kissing is sexual. Our genitals are designed for elimination procreation and pleasure. There is no logical reason why the mouth and tongue cannot be legitimately used to stimulate the penis or clitoris.
    • Oral-genital contact is unnatural, and dirty. The Bible would not promote an unnatural activity. Not clean? Have a bath before oral lovemaking. Problem solved. After all, our genitals are not by nature dirty, they are holy before God.
    • It is used by unmarried couples to sidestep the righteous demands of a holy God. The fact that something was used for a wrong purpose before marriage does not mean it cannot be used for a good purpose in marriage.
    • Oral sex is a homosexual activity. At the risk of being glib, “So what?” Homosexuals do many things. Their misappropriation of an act for ungodly ends does not prohibit its use by a husband and wife.
    • Some people become “demonized” through oral sex. This is the subjective conclusion of some inner healing and deliverance ministries. If it is true in some individual cases I am sure it is the result of far more than enjoying a godly practice within holy matrimony.
    • We only want oral stimulation and oral sex because of what we have seen in pornography. No so. Many of us wanted to enjoy oral pleasures long before we were exposed to any form of pornography, or even nudity or erotica. Some of us first came by in secular manuals on sexual lovemaking, or simply in references in popular culture. We even were exposed to it in reading the Word of God. If the practice has been defiled by exposure to the degradation of pornography, simple repentance and renunciation will rectify the matter and open the door for sublime spousal pleasure.
    • Some are obsessed with a strong desire for oral sex, to the exclusion of regular lovemaking. Can a person become obsessed with oral stimulation? For sure. Can that obsession be fueled by pornography? Certainly. But let’s deal with the real issue and not use the problem of some to condemn the pleasures of the many.

    There are plenty of sexually sinful things which Christians need to avoid at all costs and of which to repent for any present or past involvement. Oral stimulation and oral sex is not one of them. This is a pleasurable practice to be freely and fully enjoyed within the sanctity of the marriage bed, joyously and guilt free.


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